October 29, 2016
I am forever grateful to you for developing and teaching “The Heart in Darkness.” My father passed away on October 11, 2016 and I had the good fortune of attending your workshop at the Aspen Chapel in January 2016, prior to his decline and death.
The information and examples you shared during the workshop allowed me to be both a student and a teacher during my father’s transition process, as I was able to also help my siblings through my Dad’s end of life journey.
Some of the most helpful lessons learned:
• Everyone must give their loved one permission to die. Forgiveness is essential in the process.
• Understanding the grieving process is paramount – honor all of your feelings, absent-mindedness, feeling of overwhelm, etc. Be kind to each other, and be kind to yourself.
• It’s ok to cry and actually very important. Honor the time when your shell is cracked, and allow the healing light and support of others to shine through.
• Understanding more about the dying process, I was able to shift from being in fear of death, and able to go deeper to observe the wonder of death. I felt that I had the composure to let go of my fear and help my family move from grief to acceptance, and then to a loving send-off.
Near the end, when his breathing shallowed and I knew his time to pass was near, I felt guilty welcoming the death of my Dad, the man who brought me life. But I was able to move past that when I remembered that more than anything, I wanted a painless, peaceful, reconciling passage, and I was so grateful for his peace.
Witnessing the death of a loved one has been a pivotal lesson on my spiritual journey. I’m less fearful of death. I’ve learned that a big part of the fear of death is the fear of pain. Our hospice experience was immensely helpful and supporting of the process.
The shift from “painful realization of death” to “wonder of the next realm” is actively shifting from fear of pain to freedom for our loved-one and for us. That is the gift I received from my Dad in this process. I don’t know where it leads, but I am at peace regardless.
Thank you again for your generous and loving offering of this program. I hope that it serves the needs of many looking to accept the dying and healing process.
With Love and Gratitude,
P.S. I received a wonderful passage from a friend…
Grief never ends…but it changes.
It’s a passage, not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith…
It is the price of love.